Safe With God

“The Lord will rescue me from every evil deed, and will bring me safely to His heavenly kingdom; to Him be the glory forever and ever. Amen.”  2 Timothy 4:18

This time last year, I had to take full responsibility for my father’s care.  While his need for my help had been increasing over the previous five years, a bout with the flu and failing faculties required me to be more involved on a daily basis.  With few exceptions, there was a daily trip to visit his assisted living apartment which is on the opposite side of town.  There are two routes: one through town with traffic and traffic signals, and one through the country.  With poorer road conditions, the latter can be a risky trip in bad weather. 

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Friends and Family

“Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice.   Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.”  Ephesians 4:31-32

Relationships can be difficult; add stress and they become more challenging.  Sadly, it’s easy to forget that our illness has an impact on others.  While we may be the only party experiencing the actual symptoms, we are most likely not the only ones hurting.   For purposes of this discussion, let’s consider three distinct groups:  those of us who are truly alone, our friends and our family.

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Beauty and Worth

“For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb.  I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; wonderful are Your works, and my soul knows it very well.”  Psalm 139: 13-14

My wife and I like to go to museums.   Sometimes we stroll through them together while at other times, we separate.  One of the reasons we meander independently is because I am a “recovering perfectionist”.  We’ve often joked that I could not survive as a museum curator as I struggle to find the beauty and value in a statue, a piece of pottery or any other relic that is broken or marred…even if it is several thousand years old.  If left to me, they’d be in a rubbish bin.  

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Defining Good and Bad

“As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result, to preserve many people alive.”  Genesis 50:20

When starting a new support group, I ask participants to define a few words.  Two of those words are good and bad.  A quick search provided the following:  good – “to be desired or approved of”; bad – “of poor quality; inferior or defective” and “not such as to be hoped for or desired; unpleasant or unwelcome”.  The synonyms are more direct with words like healthy, fine, sound, fit, robust, sturdy, strong, and vigorous versus substandard, poor, inferior, unsatisfactory, inadequate, unacceptable, imperfect, defective, faulty, and miserable.  These are consistent with participants’ responses.  Admittedly, for a significant portion of my life, I would have agreed with these definitions.   However, God has brought me to the place where I understand that, in our haste to categorize, we are often missing two key components: complete information and perspective.  Specifically we often lack all of the finer details and regularly forget the eternal perspective which can significantly change our overall view of any given condition, situation or trial.  In that light, my health may be substandard, poor and inferior, but I would not classify my situation bad.

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